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labrujahin looking through my 3 pages of saved email addresses dating back to 1999 or so, I realize that I used to meet amazing people from all over the country. I took a bus from New York to Seattle by myself when I was 19, for heaven's sake. And then I went to Burning Man for the first time with a bunch of strangers.
What I am trying to figure out now is: am I less friendly? Or, because I have essentially not left New York for longer than a week in three years, is my social circle limited to people I already know and/or friends-of-friends?
Have I lost or retired the part of me that is curious about new people? I don't think so, because I have branched out a little lately. But I think I don't pursue promising people as much as I once did -- I just don't bother to feel out those tentative commonalities that lead to new friendships. The wise Jenslinky once said that you only need two friends, in case one is busy. And she does take a lot of maintenance.
The other thing is: since when have I become such a homebody? I suppose it could be argued that now that I live in an intentional community, all efforts and dreams I pinned to constant movement before get funneled into nest-feathering now. Still, I don't think it's normal to resent leaving the house to grocery-shop.
What I am trying to figure out now is: am I less friendly? Or, because I have essentially not left New York for longer than a week in three years, is my social circle limited to people I already know and/or friends-of-friends?
Have I lost or retired the part of me that is curious about new people? I don't think so, because I have branched out a little lately. But I think I don't pursue promising people as much as I once did -- I just don't bother to feel out those tentative commonalities that lead to new friendships. The wise Jenslinky once said that you only need two friends, in case one is busy. And she does take a lot of maintenance.
The other thing is: since when have I become such a homebody? I suppose it could be argued that now that I live in an intentional community, all efforts and dreams I pinned to constant movement before get funneled into nest-feathering now. Still, I don't think it's normal to resent leaving the house to grocery-shop.
